Rejection could be very painful and sometimes, difficult to bear. Rejection could be in different forms, whether in form of exclusion from a social gathering, an excellent idea turned down, an unsuccessful interview, an anticipated promotion or pay-rise not realized. A corresponding attitude towards rejection can, to a large extent, determine the entire outcome of the future, positively or negatively.
The following points outline some practical steps and principles in dealing with rejection of any form.
Sometimes, the feelings associated with rejection could be devastating, depending on the circumstances. To be able to deal with such feelings successfully, it is essential that the feeling is acknowledged. It is not out of place that you admit the fact that you are sad, discouraged and/or disappointed. You must be able to face the pain head-on.
During this time, it is tempting to start to look down on yourself, feeling that you are not good enough, and may begin to involve in negative self-talk. Never allow that to happen to you. Suppress negative feelings with positive actions. Never give up trying!
Rejection does not necessarily equate failure. And, it is not the end of life. It should be seen as an opportunity to start again, to learn, grow and become better, with renewed energy. It’s a learning period, a period of reinventing oneself.
This period could be used in asking for a feedback from the assessors about the reason for the rejection. This will help in making amends for better future performance. But, in doing this, never make it seem as if pain and outburst emotionally are the results of people’s feedback, or else, you will receive less.
Not allowing your self-worth be determined by people’s opinion is a good practice. People’s perspective about other people isn’t always accurate. A single opinion about you cannot necessarily define your whole strength. Although listening to people’s constructive perspective can be helpful in realigning one’s step for better future performance but never pay attention to destructive criticism.
Keep rejection in perspective. Don’t beat yourself too hard. Rejection of any form from a company or individual doesn’t necessarily translate into incompetence or inadequacy on your part. Under similar conditions or set of circumstances, you could perform better elsewhere. Never write yourself off!
